Foxy Lady – An
interview with Nicole Fox
Fox, possibly the sexiest woman in South African radio, is
waiting for me
at a coffee shop in Melville.
She’s smoking a cigarette and has managed to seat herself
at a table that is so awkwardly placed I can barely squeeze into
my chair. I wonder if this might be a sign that Nicole is a tad
on the impenetrable side, but, thankfully, quite the opposite
Nicole’s role as a high-profile female DJ at one of the
country’s foremost radio stations had its origins at university.
While intending to embark on a career in television, she found
herself roped in at the campus radio station and that was pretty
She’s part of a bold new wave of female DJs that are very
sexy and very visible. The old chestnut of “having a face
for radio” is no longer applicable in these tabloid-driven
times. Nicole’s public romance with DJ colleague Gareth
Cliff also got tongues wagging, further highlighting the celebrity-based
nature of contemporary South African radio.
She starts by talking excitedly about
attending a Madonna concert in Europe a few months earlier,
and admits to having an almost
obsessive adoration for the diva: “It was the best night
of my life. She came onto the stage and I started crying”.
She’d been warned that I intended going a little “below
the belt” with my questions, but, just like her idol Madonna,
that didn’t seem to phase her in the least. Before getting
down-and-dirty she tells me about her “new direction” in
life: “To try and spread some positivity, to encourage
people to not look at the labels, to break down the stereotypes”.
She did just that when she committed a whole week of her show
to promoting Gay Pride in September, resulting in extreme responses
from some listeners.
Well, what kind of reactions did you expect?
Obviously in our society there are
still people that are so far behind, it’s fucking frightening. There are people
that complain. But that’s okay.
Do you feel that you can express
your opinions on air, or do you feel the need be somehow “objective”?
On one hand, yes, I do need to be the
gatekeeper, striking the fine balance, but luckily 5FM is a
personality based radio station,
so you are encouraged to have an opinion and to express it. So,
I’m not scared to do that. And If I can make a difference
and change one or two people’s minds, then all the better.
Let’s get a little more… personal.
What kind of man are you attracted to?
Well… (Nicole lights up a another cigarette) You know,
in my youth I so went for bad guys! I find them wholly appealing.
They’re much more of a challenge. And then I went through
a stage where I went for really hot and stupid guys, because
they’re really unchallenging. Which suited me just fine
at the time. But perhaps it’s getting older, (laughs),
but the kind of guy that I’m attracted to now is the guy
that’s going to be there. Reliability, loyalty… I
sound like I’m talking about a dog! (Laughs raucously)
Come boy, down! And obviously, somebody to have fun with. I’m
a little bit mad, so I need someone who’s prepared to come
along for the ride.
Single or involved at the moment?
Single. Gareth and I broke up recently… A
few months ago.
And no immediate replacement?
I’m loving the single life! It was difficult. It was tough
- also because of the whole pseudo celebrity thing. It was difficult,
like any breakup is. But I’m so happy at the moment. It’s
nice to be able to focus on myself. Sometimes you lose track
of that in a relationship. Sometimes you have to compromise.
And it’s really nice to be a bit selfish.
Most attractive body part on a guy?
I have always been a sucker for forearms.
I love men – every
part of them. I’m not a body hair fan, period. Slightly
muscular. I’m not talking about big butch gym guys; I find
them intimidating and quite strange frankly…
And, having dated Gareth, what are your thoughts on dating other
My advice is stay away! (Laughs) Nothing
I say here is to be taken as from my personal situation at
all. It’s a generalization!
Look at Robbie Williams; he’s my personal fantasy. Yes,
please! Take me now! Having said that, how many issues does the
guy have? Very often people in the limelight are there because
they have insecurity problems. Stars often want to spend time
in the mirror and quite frankly, there’s only enough space
Do you prefer cut or uncut?
(Nicole appears confused) Are you talking about men or women?
Do you know what the question means?
I’m thinking body hair here…?
No, circumcised or un-circumcised!
I can’t believe you asked me that! (Looks mortified) Okay,
let’s put it this way…I’m not a messy girl.
I prefer things neat and tidy. Let’s leave it at that!
Okay, moving on from the sordid to the more sordid. Men and
their obsession with anal sex with their women. Why the fascination?
Are you trying to get me to say whether
I’ve had anal
sex? (Laughs) Men watch porn from a young age and that plays
a big role. It’s a forbidden fruit. I have yet to meet
a woman who has admitted to me that they’ve had anal sex.
Whether they’ve done it or not, I don’t know… Possibly
there’s a power element to it. And that freaks me out a
little bit. I wouldn’t want a man to have a certain kind
of sex with me just to be in power.
Is anyone straight anymore?
The boundaries have really blurred
haven’t they? Everyone
seems to be into bi-curiosity these days. It’s in the porn,
it’s everywhere! I have heard more and more stories of
straight men and women experimenting with the same sex. It’s
a mess. (Laughs) But it’s encouraging that more people
are open about it.
And, speaking of bi-curiosity… What
about yourself? Have you been intimate with a girl?
(There is a long pause) On the record…Umm… Let’s
just say that I’ve had a very wild time. I’ve been
very eager. I’ve been curious and I’ve always approached
life with an open mind. (Laughs) I’ve never been scared
to try things and I’ve had a great time…
But… a lady never kisses and
The Nicole Fox Show is broadcast nationally on 5FM between 6pm
and 10pm every weekday.
By Luiz DeBarros © 2004